Nickkie&Co. actively promotes that conglomerates live our best lives & do so in any way we choose. Today’s memoir focuses on a serious topic that has yet to be discussed on the Nickkie&Co. platform– mental health. Living our best lives requires that we nurture our mental health & address when there is a need. See, people fail to realize that mental health is all encompassing & includes our mental, emotional & physical state of being. Therefore it is essential that we take care of it, nurture it & love into it because in neglecting it we fail to contribute to our best lives & the lives of those in whom we love.
See, society has come to stigmatize mental health as if it is not a concern that influences everyone. As a result many of us are ashamed to express or seek help when our mental health is at stake. As women and/or minorities, the stigmas & negative representation associated with mental health has shut us up for far too long! The culture we were raised up in, the mental health tagging/excuse of mass shooters & the idea that “normal” people do not have mental health instabilities has silenced us in ways that can only cause us more harm than good. These reasons alone have made us unrelatable to one another. Unrelatable because we do not want to be like the mass shooters or the other individuals that have been black-balled by society. This in turn causes us to not seek assistance or vocalize when something is or has effected us. But the dirty truth is, at some point of our lives we have all been mentally inefficient & though some of us can “get it together” sooner than others, others have a harder time & others experience mental instability on an on-again-off-again basis– it is totally normal!!! The extent in which we recover has nothing to do with our strength to overcome, instead it has everything to do with our personal stories & how they have effected us.
In deciding to create Nickkie&Co. I realized the importance of people not feeling alone. I realized that in my most trying times, during my most stressful situations & in my worst state of mind, despite the people who were around me with open arms, my physical state & my relationships wavered due to my inability to acknowledge that I needed help. I became a slave to my issues & I would never want this for Nickkie&Co. conglomerates or anyone for that matter. That is why I created this platform to bring this pandemic to light because these issues effect us regardless of our race, age or creed. Issues like this makes us most relatable to one another.
Therefore, I urge that we accept mental health as a natural part of life & we make it a group effort to help & heal one another. We have to get out of our own way so that we may progress to the next level by investing in our mental health.
- Feel comfortable to seek help from a mental health provider & discuss your options
- Learn to express yourself & acknowledge what you are feeling
- Learn that what you feel is totally ok & someone else has been there
- Reach out to close friends or hotlines to help you get back on track
- Pursue new hobbies that will help you discover a new & improved version yourself
- Check in on one another
- Even when you feel fine, you need to still invest in taking care of your mental being so you can continue to feel that way
Most importantly, make sure it has YOU in mind & ignore the uneducated, ignorant, judgmental opinions of people who are in denial that they too experience mental inefficiency at times. Keeping this in mind is essential to ensure you remain HEALTHY. I can not stress this enough. We are human, we feel, we bleed & because as human beings our processing is never ending this can be hard on us. We must accept this.
I wholeheartedly believe that if we accept mental health as apart of our lives & if we deal with this appropriately, the rates of depression, suicide, substance abuse, mass shootings, homicide, violence, high mortality along with other plaguing conditions that jeopardize our quality of life will significantly decrease. As rates decrease, pharmaceutical companies will stop making billions of dollars on medications that may or may not nurse one condition while exposing us to multiple side effects that can be more harmful to us & media avenues will have less topics to discuss that distract us from the real issues around us. Now do not get me wrong, this is not to say medications are not needed, but every problem does not require medication as a solution. In fact, acceptance & preventative measures can add so much quality to our existence that we will be a force to be be reckoned with.
So conglomerates, I beg you, love yourself enough to care for yourself in this way as this is a true way to be happy & live your best life. Educate yourself so you can help yourself or someone else identify a need. Be your sisters keeper & this is the same for our brothers. Let us not allow other factors be the reason for our demise. We are a united front. Let us build each other up so we can start walking on our own, taking baby steps, scheduling our own appointments & making strides to living full & healthy lives. Most importantly, let us embrace the person who expresses they need help instead of turn them away. Let’s build each other up so that we can be our best selves, live our best lives at all times.
For help, please feel comfortable going to your primary care provider or calling 9-1-1 if there is an urgent situation that needs assistance immediately. But in the event that you would want some information or assistance locating a mental health provider near you, or do not feel comfortable with the other two options, I have included below two resources that can assist you.
Get general information on mental health and locate treatment services in your area. Speak to a live person, Monday through Friday from 8 a.m. to 8 p.m. EST.
If you or someone you know is suicidal or in emotional distress, contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline.Trained crisis workers are available to talk 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Your confidential and toll-free call goes to the nearest crisis center in the Lifeline national network. These centers provide crisis counseling and mental health referrals.