Inspire

To INSPIRE is to fill someone with the urge or ability to do or feel something.

Every morning I wake up with the deliberate intent to inspire someone. I understand that every encounter I may have with someone (stranger, friend or foe) is an opportunity for me to do so. I recognize that many of us are walking around aimlessly, uninspired & without purpose. So the greatest blessing I feel I can offer anyone is to inspire them. Because in inspiring them, they come into realization of their abilities & the potential to pursue all the dreams they never imagined they could make a reality.

As women going places, it is imperative that we keep this same mindset, at all times. Unfortunately, with all that is going on, people feel incapable to make their gifts & talents work for them. They need to be inspired, to have something to strive for, something to give them purpose. Life is too beautiful to just be in it living aimlessly. We need to make it work for us. We need to inspire & be inspired. Once we realize the way this can impact the lives of others we MUST share it with the world.

So wake up. Take on the task to inspire the world.

Your Emotion, Your Voice

Anyone that knows me on a personal level can vouch for what I am about to say. I am an extremely emotional person. If you break down the façade of my “tough” exterior you will see that I am a big softy. I am extremely empathic & it leaves me vulnerable to feel significantly the pains & joys of other people. A quality that I hated so much about myself; that often made me feel insignificant or dismissed as invalid has now been embraced & accepted as a strong quality that contributes to who I am today.

Although early on society told me that being emotional is a weak characteristic, is only associated with irrational women & should be discarded; I have learned to disregard what I was conditioned to believe so long ago. Because being emotional has allowed me to make an impact for those who need it, be genuine when I receive good news & has propelled my professional career in ways I never would have imagined a year ago. The importance is in how we channel our emotions & that we use it for good. After all, being emotional or emotionally driven is different than being an irrational person. We currently live in a world that laughs in the face of emotions but encourages dysfunction. But because of our emotions, we are great mothers, amazing friends, nurturing to our spouses & efficient in our jobs.

Therefore, today, I want to tell you that what you feel matters. What & how you process what you feel matters. How you express what you feel matters & the fact that you feel matters, significantly. Do not allow the world to tell you this is unacceptable. Do not let them muffle it out. Your emotion is the flame that ignites your voice. It allows you to stand up for injustices when you see them, give words of encouragement when you recognize the need, whisper loving words to your children at night, hum sweet nothings to your spouse during intimate moments & allows you to advocate for yourself when you are told to stand back. To allow someone, anyone, to disregard what you feel, creates suffocation & dullness in multiple facets of your life where it is needed.

You Are Colorful.

Be Colorful.

Beautiful From The Inside Out

Good morning Conglomerates!!! Happy Sunday! Today I am extremely pleased to announce that we have Guest Inspiration, Kathy Washington, here to talking about how what we put into our bodies is an important ritual of self-care. This is a very relatable memoir that invokes the desire to think differently & pick up new habits that will be most beneficial to us. Please join me in welcoming our fellow Conglomerate as she shares with us how to live our best lives, as we go places.

As women, we grow up learning and being groomed to practice modes of self care that enhance our outward appearance. Perhaps we make an effort to practice self care by doing our nails, our hair, taking vitamins, using certain skin care products and cosmetics, and buying clothing that we feel is flattering to our bodies. While these are modalities of self care that can give us a quick boost, today I want to challenge us to practice a mode of self care that will help us to be radiant from the inside out: eating well.

Most of the time, when we think about beauty, we don’t think about what we put inside our bodies, which can have lasting effects and boost the way our skin cells operate, our brain cells, our organ function, our confidence, and energy levels.

For the last 2 years, I have been on a journey of practicing self care by doing something that I have to do every day no matter what: EAT! I learned that healthy food choices do not have to be hard or conflict with my other responsibilities. I learned that I can quickly pack healthy lunches for myself every day by changing my thinking. I learned to incorporate more plant-based foods into my daily eating habits to give my body the fuel it needs. I learned to make unusual pairings of foods and experiment with my taste buds. The energy and feeling of well-being as a result has been amazing!

As a child, I had home cooked meals and processed foods as my mom worked full time. I still love my staple of rice and beans; however, I had limited exposure to a variety of whole foods. My parents did the best they could, but I had to teach myself as an adult how to eat healthy and recognize patterns of unhealthy eating in myself. Some of the reasons for my unhealthy eating were cultural, social, financial, emotional, stress-related, time constraints, and unawareness. I also frankly thought that healthy food just didn’t taste good. 

Now that I am older and responsible for my own eating habits, I am exploring and being more adventurous about my food choices. I am making what goes inside my body as much of a priority as what I do on the outside.

As women who are going places, we tend to be multitaskers and wear many hats. Sometimes those hats cause us to believe that we don’t “have time” to eat well or be conscientious about food choices because we are “too busy.” As a full-time working mom with 5 year old twins, I know all about being busy.

Sometimes we invest more time and energy into the health of our families and allow ourselves to “eat on the go.” Sometimes we think that other things are “more important” than choosing foods that nourish us. Sometimes it’s more convenient and less expensive to buy food that has a longer shelf life. Sometimes we get to the point of being so hungry or tired, we will grab some cupcakes, ice cream, potato chips, soda, or (insert salty or sweet snack of choice) instead of a meal.  Mentally, we put ourselves on the back burner when it comes to choosing healthy foods because we are prioritizing others’ needs ahead of our own. Eating and meal preparation become additional chores or mindless tasks.

Today I would like to challenge the idea that taking care of our bodies on the inside is less important than the laundry list of “things to do” that awaits us every day. I want to challenge the notion that the roles we play take priority over our nutritional needs. I want to say that it IS possible to make healthy food choices AND make meal prep simple and balanced.

When I go to the supermarket, I look for specific healthy foods that will make meal prep simple. I try to buy more produce than processed foods and buy fruits and veggies that I can easily pack into a lunch container or snack bag. If it comes from a plant, eat it! The more colorful, the better: avocados, tomatoes, basil, salad mixes, olives, bananas, strawberries, cherries, potatoes, red onion, peppers, apples, cilantro. Pair these with whole wheat pasta, tortilla wraps, quinoa, beans, lentils, hummus, rice, olive oil, white wine vinegar, or a healthy protein and starch of your choice, which can make for a power packed meal that is satisfying and nutrient-rich.

Dare to experiment with healthy recipes on Pinterest. Dare to have a basil plant or fresh herbs inside a pot. Think outside the box. Change can be difficult, so make small changes first and build on the smaller changes over time.

Don’t be afraid to bring a whole avocado to work as part of your lunch. Dare to add pasta and red onion to a salad for a flavor pop! Buy pre-rinsed veggies in a bag to make it easier. Pack more whole foods in your lunch box, even if it means you are packing half the contents of your refrigerator! Bananas, carrots, or apples with peanut or almond butter are delicious and can help with sweet cravings. Grape tomatoes are full of flavor, easy to use for meal prep, and can last longer than larger tomatoes as they don’t require cutting. Berries can be pre-rinsed the night before and packed in a snack bag. Water can be infused with fruit or lemon to give it more flavor and less sugar than soda or store-bought juice. Ice packs are good for keeping food cold when a refrigerator is not available.

As women who are going places, we need to nourish our bodies and fuel our minds with the foods that nature gave us to help us be our best. Marketing and prepackaging of food can be so confusing. Labels entice us with “high protein, low fat, low sodium, low carb, low starch, low sugar/no sugar, gluten-free.” The truth is that our bodies best respond to the foods that are least processed and least packaged, with the least amount of chemicals, additives, and preservatives. We don’t need to read a label to choose produce.

It is easy to be enticed by convenience foods. I had no idea of the cloud that I had been living in and the low energy I had until I decided to eat more plant based and healthy foods, and I feel amazing. I am more alert, and I don’t feel the mental fog I once did when I ate a lot of processed foods. I found simple, easy recipes that don’t require much cooking and are satisfying. I found ways to modify my food choices and incorporate it in a way that works with my lifestyle.

Now, I pack my lunches and do meal prep at the same time that I pack my kids’ lunches, usually after dinner as I’m cleaning the kitchen. I put pasta in a container with tomato sauce and top it with some basil, kale, and a little shredded cheese. I pack cherries or strawberries in a snack bag. I still enjoy tortilla chips, chocolate, and other snacks, but I try to balance it out so I’m not over doing it and also not feeling deprived. I try to plan my food choices. When it becomes a lifestyle and daily routine vs a “diet,” the chances for sticking with it are much higher.

I decided that I’m worth it and I owe it to myself! As women who are going places, let’s practice self care and self love from the inside out.


“I decided that I am worth it & I owe it to myself”

No Pain, No Gain.

Unfortunately, in order to become who we are meant to be, pain is apart of the process. That being the case, I have had my share of pain that has been inflicted by rejection, abandonment & disappointment. As time progressed, I learned how to not allow what hurt me to cripple me from advancement & that beauty is morphed from my pain.

I was born a fatherless child to a young single mother who harbored her own pain. Although I did not know it then, I carried that pain for a long time & used his abandonment as an excuse to distrust & dislike people. I chose not to live my life or engage with new people out of fear of becoming a familiar friend to abandonment & rejection, yet again. I had a personable personality, but put the people who loved me through hell to ensure their intent was genuine. As time progressed & I loosened the reigns, I began to trust the wrong people. People who were less than worthy of my time. People who reminded me of what it felt like to be that little girl who was rejected by her father. People who took advantage of my vulnerability & my new attempt to forgive & disguised it as love. People who made it difficult to trust when amazing people who are worthy step in.

As I pursue new adventures with new people, I hold certain lesson extremely close to my heart. For instance, putting people under strict confines, not only made me a sh*tty person, it is asking for people to screw up. There is a clear difference between bad people & people who make a mistake & just because someone makes a mistake, does not make them a bad person. Being anti-social does not hurt the people that hurt me, but instead limits me from reaching my potential & engaging with people that can offer enjoyable experiences & lasting relationships. Some people are not supposed to be around forever. Sometimes their season is to serve a purpose & to go on their way. However, I learned to appreciate the people who stuck around even when I was not worth sticking around for. Although I still work through my trauma, I am healed enough to know that it is important to take ownership of my pain, regain my power & live my life.

The aftermath of my pain has given me the ability to empathize with those that are hurting & has allowed me to speak life into those who need it. I encourage you to do the same. People need your testimony. Your pain alone gives you a story to tell. A story of a journey consistent with perseverance & healing. Pain, although the effects can be long lasting, was never meant to be around forever. It’s purpose is to make a bad situation a positive transformation. What we gain from the experience, we are to help pour into others. We should never get it mixed up – pain is temporary. YOU are FOREVER.