Apologizing to Self

Good morning, Loves!

For the past few months, I have been extremely hard on myself trying to keep off the “quarantine-15” I gained a few months back. Though the progress is evident in the stats, the fact that I can’t “see” the results have caused me to lose patience & not appreciate what has been accomplished thus far. My inability to enjoy the process has caused me to be a little less than kind to myself. However, my perspective changed significantly, when I was hit with a stomach bug & had to marvel at the process my body takes to bounce back.

I actually found myself apologizing to my mind & body for not accepting what it does every day to keep me alive & in good health. I wake up every day with a sound mind, a joyful spirit & a body that pumps healthy blood through me every day. Although, it may take longer for me to physically get the results I want; underneath it all my body is working.

But the truth of the matter is- we are all guilty of this & we all owe ourselves an apology.

Too often we fail to love ourselves the way we need to. We are so much more forgiving to other people than we are to ourselves. We push ourselves to unreasonable limits under the context that we need to work harder. We maintain very abuse relationships with ourselves (physically, spiritually, mentally) & then we fix our mouths to call it “self-care”. We allow negative thoughts to invade our minds & then tell ourselves we are not doing enough. Our body tells us to rest & we still overbook ourselves & say that we are being a good friend, sister & lover. We are there for everyone but ourselves.

But what we need most, is to consistently be a good steward to ourselves. Self care does not only entail taking a bubble bath & drinking wine on a Sunday night. In fact it has everything to do with how we treat ourselves, how we talk to ourselves, how we set boundaries (even for ourselves), how we put time aside to rest & how we pay attention when any aspect of our body speaks to us.

We only get one “US” while we are here.

Love her.

She loves you & she proves it every day.

Millennial Way of Living

We grew up in a society that presumes that the millennial generation has no true understanding of life & what to expect. For years, generations before us have attempted to dictate what success, relationships & family life should look like for us. However, when we refused to conform to that image, we lacked drive. But the truth is, we saw how life works & we concluded that life does not necessarily deal fair cards & we did something about it.

Instead of allowing the system to dictate our value, we let our creativeness take precedence. Entrepreneurs is an understatement with the talents & standards we have begun to unlock & monetize from. However, those who do not get it, will never understand why we find it ok to do things our way. As women, we have decided that our family can constitute our friends without having to marry & have children; if we do not want to. We set standards in our romantic relationships that those before us may not have had the confidence to set. We decided that we can have our own businesses doing things that generations before us did for free. We have learned to make social media work for us & have ran down the walls of universities grabbing degrees & opportunities that were withheld from those before us.

We are making it known, what worked for our parents is not the only way to ensure life works for us. Despite what many people think, we have drive. It just may not look like anyone else’s. Instead of settling, we have decided we want it all & we are coming for it. That is not an unrealistic expectation. It is an understanding that life is not limited & we can get it all with strategic planning. Most importantly, we can have fun doing it. However, just as a path was paved for us, we have created a platform for those after us.

So if you’re millennial reading this, keep those creative juices flowing & set the standards for what you want life to look like. Ignore the noise. Do life your way.

After all, it SHOULD be done your way. It is your life to begin with.

Sow Seed.

In a society that promotes competitiveness it should not be a surprise that more people are becoming information hoarders. Many people have opted to withhold information out of fear of losing out on an opportunity. But as we all know, what is for us will not miss us. Therefore, there is no significant reason to withold information that can be significantly beneficial to someone else.

Despite what many people believe, the idea of being fruitful does not only relate to bearing children; it’s one’s willingness to sow & grow fruits (what we have to offer) into the the earth. Your fruits are what makes the world go ’round & establishes your legacy. There are too many people starting new endeavors alone while many people have access to the resources that can make their process significantly easier.

We should be more willing to share the information we have obtained than chastise someone for asking. Any milestone that helps another person reach their goal sooner is a victory for us. Life is too short to contribute to making someone’s life more cumbersome. Use your experiences to flip their circumstances around & you will be blessed for it. Life is about making the journey shorter & more enjoyable.

Contribute to it.