Mental Health, First. Success, Second.

For forever we have been told the standards in which we should gain & pursue success. Whether it is to go to school, start our own business or obtain a 6 figure job someone has always projected the image of what success should look like for us. Despite the various avenues we take to obtain that success; the overall expectation appears to remain the same– work yourself to the ground, because if you don’t, you don’t want it bad enough. But let me tell you, this way of thinking is outdated & it doesn’t respect you as an individual.

Unbeknownst to many of us, we push theme often because the message is everywhere. It is even in the “inspirational” memes we continuously repost on social media. But today, I am telling you to define your own success & how you obtain it. Narratives that shame you on how you utilize every waking hour of your life is probably one of the most toxic narratives you can receive. Because as you’re hustling to keep up; your mental health is depleting & the reason for your hustle gets forgotten.

What value does your success offer if you lack wholeness? How much can you contribute to your purpose if you are mentally & spiritually depleted? If achieving success at the expense of your mental health is the only option you have, have you actually achieved it?

I say the same thing over & over throughout these memoirs. Live your life by your standards & do not feel bad when you live outside of the confines someone else has imposed. There is nothing wrong with working hard. However, if working hard requires that you sacrifice everything- including yourself; I urge you to re-evaluate your steps.

Life is meant to be lived fully. We are supposed to enjoy the journey we take to get where we are going. If our noses are to the ground & we do not take a moment to enjoy all beautiful things around us; we lost the thing that’s most important…

US.

Nothing, not purpose, not finances, not anything is worth that.

You are the priority.

Imposter Syndrome

Let’s talk about Imposter Syndrome. There have been many times I have experienced this in my lifetime. However, it wasn’t until a few years ago that I started to recognize that the feelings I had associated with this actually had a name. Imposter syndrome is a phenomenon that causes people to doubt their abilities enough to make them question if they belong at the table they are seated. These emotions are often feelings that cause people to invalidate their successes as if their hard work was not enough for them to be deserving of where they are. So many of us work so hard throughout our lives to ensure we provide the life we desire for ourselves and our families. However, despite how hard we work or how prepared we are; many of us combat (at some level) the anxiety associated with imposter syndrome.

Today, I am here to tell you to avoid succumbing to this warped perspective & claim the things you worked so hard for. You don’t have to work harder than the next person to prove you belong there. The fact that you are there, sitting at the same table, in the same room is all the confirmation that you need. You are not there by coincidence or happenstance but because God’s favor opened the door you chose to walk through & that’s enough reason to be where you are; doing what you’re doing.

Baby girl, those late nights & early mornings you invested were not for nothing. The education, the brainstorming & the creating got you there. No one knows the sacrifices you have made to be where you are & no one lays down at night being accountable for your choices and actions but you. Everything you ever wanted & received became a manifestation that you worked for. Don’t take that from yourself.

They told you the world is yours. Don’t doubt it.

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Hello Loves,

I have something exciting to share. A few weeks ago, Nickkie&Co opened our shop! You can now purchase every year of memoirs in series, 1-3!!

We also have a 90 day Affirmation Journal available that is interactive right from your cellular devices. It was created so ensure that you devote the time to your self care even while on the go!

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Your Timeline…

Good morning Loves! Happy Sunday.

Let’s talk about timing. We spend our whole lives creating timelines for ourselves. We use timing to dictate parenthood, our career goals & our standards of success. However, I am learning that although it is important to establish goals; establishing strict expectations for your life will only contribute to self-loathing, anxiety & depression when God’s predestined plan trumps our own.

There is no preparation in the world that can keep from you what is meant for you. It’s true, there is a season & time for everything. Although we must maximize on the resources in front of us; we are not allowed to mistreat ourselves when things do not go according to our plan. Because the truth is, the plan that God has for us far surpasses anything that we could have ever imagined. Knowing that a plan that is greater than ours is already in motion; it is important that we just relish in the beautiful things that life has to offer.

We can strive to conquer goals & create “loose” timelines but understanding that life rarely ever goes the way we plan is one of the first steps of self-care. If we cannot plan time centered expectations; let’s plan to create new memories with the people we love. When it’s all said & done, the amount of time it took us to get to where we are headed is insignificant in comparison to the memories & experiences we leave behind.

Be gentle to yourself.

God hears your desires. It’s coming. Let him worry about the timeline.

Everything is A Choice

Remember Loves,

This week is yours to do what you want with it.

It is up to you to make active choices to —

Be happy

Be confident

Start fresh

Love without conditions

Start establishing boundaries

Make intentional & deliberate decisions that elevate you & others

Learn something new

Make someone smile

Engage in positive conversations

Tackle unforeseen obstacles

& tap into your tribe, if needed.

(because you shouldn’t go through life alone)

Life is all about choices & often we get so caught up with what is in front of us that we forget that every decision we make, every action we take, is an active choice we choose to make. We have to be willing to accept that although there may be instances where choices are not clear; how we react to any given situation, whether good or bad, is still a choice.

You are too powerful to not recognize that you have the ability to make a choice in everything you do. Just take a moment, sit back, be slower to react & pick the option that bests suit you & what you stand for. Determine if whatever you face (whether good or bad) deserves the energy you want to give it.

Make every choice count.

Mastermind Soirée Discount

Hello Loves!

I have some exciting news on the Virtual Mastermind. The panelist & I really want to make the soirée accessible to anyone who may be interested but may not have the original cost allotted in their budget. As a group we have decided to make it 50% off for a limited time only.

There’s a wealth of knowledge that will be available by women who are just like you. You don’t want to miss it.

Join us for an amazing time to network & invest in your generational wealth.

See you there!

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Preserve YOU.

Sometimes we are so busy working hard to make things work for us that we settled for, outgrew or that were never meant for us in the first place. When this happens, we often fail to acknowledge how each experience & interaction makes us feel. But today I tell you, never want it that bad. If it does not feel right with your soul — DO NOT CONTINUE TO PURSUE. Everything that appears promising may be the very thing that disrupts your soul. If it disrupts your soul it doesn’t belong. Recognize disturbing energy by what your body tells you & leave whatever that energy is attached to alone.  Anything that disrupts your peace is not worth the expense. I mean that with anything — work, relationships, friendships — ANYTHING. 

A few years ago I dated a guy that had a dope personality, had a genuine moral compass & was an overall good guy. Despite how promising the time spent appeared; my spirit was extremely unsettled. The anxiety I felt (for no apparent reason) was almost crippling & I could not understand the reason if the picture I was looking at was so pretty. Now hear me when I say, I don’t struggle with insecurities, I take time to myself after every serious relationship & I spend a lot of time pouring into myself; so when I stepped into this I had a clear mind, unburdened emotions & genuine intentions. However, the anxiety that creeped in should’ve been a clear indicator that I was trying to put two pieces of a puzzle together that did not belong. If I would have listened to what my anxiety was telling me, I could’ve eliminated the amount of time it took me to recover from our encounter.

Listen love, your instincts, intuition & emotions are there to protect & add value to your life. If your emotions are out of whack, something has impacted them enough to disrupt your peace. If your body is giving you indicators that make you unsettled, your best bet is to listen to it. If “something just ain’t right”, that something is all the reason you need to evaluate & determine what is robbing you of your peace. There are options in the world babe, never should any option be the reason you lose your peace.

Preserve You.

Nickkie&CO. Virtual Soiree (Mastermind) Reminder!

Hey loves! Happy Sunday!

Just wanted to remind you to get your tickets for the first Nickkie&Co. Soiree. This mastermind will feature 3 women who have taken their financial stability into their own hands. These women have made successful careers with Amazon Ecom, Real Estate, & Business Consulting/Trucking. They have information to share with you that will give you the resources you need to step out too.

Aside from that, every registration automatically enters you in 4 raffles totaling $1000 in free stuff:

Free Amazon Mastermind Class ($500 Total)

Free Business Consultation ($250 Total)

Two Free Nickkie&Co. Memoir & Journal Bundles ($100 Total Each)

If there is an inkling of interest in learning more about starting your own business or getting your feet wet in any of these fields this event is for you! It is a small price to pay to invest into your future. Give it a shot, you will not regret it.

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Friendship; God’s Reminders.

Today is a reminder to consistently have people around you that pour into you. Amongst my friends, it has been very evident that the past few months things have been pretty difficult for me. I am blessed that in their own way, they have been there in different capacities; capacities that have exceeded my expectations. Many people tell you they will be there however, I am truly amazed at the capacity people have been. Without a thought, without a question & without missing a beat, they have been there.

As time progresses, I am reminded that meaningful friendships help make life rich. Unfortunately, society has made us think that isolation for the sake of success is normal. Instead of creating sustainable & healthy relationships with the people we love, we have started to put our professions, finances & material desires first. Although those things do matter, the amount of love you receive & the memories you create with the people you love are most important.

Life has a ton of things to remind you that it’s worth living. God put intricate details into everything he has created & in the midst of chaos, if you’re open to it, you will notice things that will make your heart smile. That is how quality friendships are; God’s gentle reminders that it is going to be ok. Regardless of how hard life can be, there are still people here that love you. When you find yourself most ugly, there are people who see your beauty as it is, who love you & are willing to run the obstacle with you.

I pray you have been open enough to receive & recognize these genuine relationships in your life. I pray that you understand that all obstacles weren’t made to be tackled alone & sometimes their willingness to step in takes away the burden of having to do it all alone. I have been immensely blessed because my loved ones made a conscious decision to seek me out when I felt isolation was best. Their interference allowed me to look at the brighter side of things & although things are not perfect now;things feel a little better because I am not alone.

I want that for you. Feeling supported makes a difference in our ability to tackle the things that are stressing us. So if you have a “healthy” someone that wants in when you’re struggling let them in. They see your worth when you can’t & will love on you when you feel unlovable.

It is quite simple, really. Life is too short to go through it alone. So, don’t.

N&Co. First Virtual Soirée – Mastermind Edition

Hello!

Nickkie&Co. is hosting it’s first Women’s Master Mind with 3 phenomenal women entrepreneurs (from all walks of life) that have proven to be successful in their careers. The idea of this mastermind is to show you that you can do it too. You can take total control of your legacy, so get ready to join us. It’s going to be a great time.

Everyone who registers is automatically entered into 4 raffles totaling $1000 in free stuff: free Amazon mastermind course totaling $500, 1 business consultation totaling $250, (2) nickkie&co memoir bundles totaling $100 each.

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