Life Isn’t A Coincidence…

Life has a way of giving you confirmation for the things you aspire for. However, many of us spend so much time focusing on our routines that we fail to slow down & pay attention to those nuances that serve as confirmation for the things we desire. As I get older, gain experience & begin recognizing the power of manifestation; I am learning that everything comes around full circle— every action has a direct consequence, every desire has the ability to be more & most of us miss opportunities that are right in front of us because we are too busy NOT looking & not maximizing on the opportunities in front of us.

Therefore, today we begin being intentional. We start manifesting with expectation. We begin lacing our expectation with confidence & become readily available to receive. Every action step we take will give us favor. Every word we speak will gain the attention of the person who has influence. Every room we step in will be an opportunity to showcase ourselves & every door we close, readily prepares us for another to open. Today we stop selling ourselves short, stop thinking we aren’t enough & we stop missing out on our dreams while making someone else’s come true.

Nothing we experience, nothing we aspire to be, nothing that suddenly inspires us happens by coincidence. It is in God’s divine timing, his deliberate mission & our ability to identify the things that are for us that will allow us to take heed of our greatest desires. The foundation has been established. It’s on us not to lose on it.

Bet on Yourself

Every week, I discuss the importance of believing in yourself, advocating for yourself & being inspired enough to make a difference. However, this stuff will be quite difficult to do if you are unable to bet & take risks on yourself. We are in an age where many of us aspire in different ways to provide for ourselves & our loved ones by our own means. The most interesting part about this is that many of us have already evaluated the ways in which we can do so but we lack the confidence to just do it.

Today I tell you to be proud. I encourage you to have the confidence you need to take the big step & pursue the things you have always wanted to do. People think that in order to chase after dreams, to pursue new aspirations or to tread new waters they have to sacrifice everything. That cannot be further than the truth. We are muli-faceted creatures capable of living, doing & focusing on multiple things to fulfill our heart’s desire. Daily, we multitask & work hard fullfilling the dreams & visions of someone else. Therefore, you owe it to yourself to fit your desires in your hectic schedule; by your own means, at your own time. I started Nickkie&Co. knowing that one day it will have a larger mission than empowering people through an empowerment blog. However, this is the foundation & I am totally content with where it is right now. I am on my own timeline & what will come will come. I simply had one job & that was to take the risk. Now that the risk was taken, the rest will surely follow.

Today, I ask you to reflect a little bit. Has there been anything you always wanted to do? Something that can transform your life in a way that will give you a joy you have never felt before? If you woke up tomorrow & had the opportunity to invest in ONE thing that makes you an even better you, without thinking of finances, or comments from nay-sayers, what would you do?

Now I ask you-

What is stopping you now?

Today will be the last day you compromise on you.

Beautiful Disaster

We live in a world that emphasizes that women should not be taken seriously because we are too emotional. We live in a world that dismisses our passions & what we feel under the assumption that we feel, how we feel, simply based off of temporary emotions. We live in a world, that tells us to relax or that “we are tripping” when we express distaste, frustration or disappointment. In the event that we cry suddenly or laugh until our stomachs hurt, it is assumed that we are having a menstrual episode. These are all ways to make us feel that there are no grounds to feel how we feel, to say what needs to be said or to be who we are supposed to be.

First thing is first, having emotions or being passionate about something is not a shortcoming to our well-being, at all. If people were more “emotion conscious”, whether being the recipient or the deliverer, situations will be more ideal & the world will be a kinder place to thrive in. Emotions are a part of us so that we can feel. We can not feel the good without the bad. We are supposed to feel happiness, joy & sadness. We are supposed to feel angry, annoyed & peeved. Emotions & their triggers are what make us the unique individuals that we are. They contribute to our stories, our growth & our outcomes. They are the driving force behind our purpose.  Do not allow anyone to shut you up under the basis that you are being emotional. Do not apologize for how you feel. Do not allow anyone to tell you that how you feel is wrong because regardless of the reason, what you feel, is how you feel & that alone makes it valid.

It has become a common consensus that we should be ashamed of robust emotion. Little boys that will one day be men are raised to express little emotion under the pretense that it makes them vulnerable. While little girls are told that their emotions contribute to their inability to function & be rational. But listen, the act of feeling; truly feeling, is such a beautiful thing. Feeling provides the benefit of experiencing joy in raising our children, excitement when we accomplish goals & triumph when a hard time is behind us. Feeling emotions is our right as human beings & in no way should it be ignored. Feeling is the art of being. If you do not feel anything, what are you living for? Therefore, never be ashamed to express yourself. Never feel that what you feel is unwarranted. Also, recognize that nothing is wrong with you if you are unable to express your emotions in the way others want you to. Sometimes it is not meant to be understood by anyone else. Sometimes our emotions are for us & us alone. That is ok. However, in all the chaos of the world, you can be sure of one thing; you are a beautiful disaster. Embrace it.

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Protect Your Energy!

As of this year, I have learned the importance of preserving & protecting my energy. This has included removing people from my life who were not supportive in contributing to it in a positive way. I realize that allowing those who do the exact opposite not only suck the HOPE out of me; they truly inhibit my growth as an individual. I have learned that in their presence, I can never truly reach the highest threshold of my goals because I will continue to provide excuses & entertain the negative energy & situations I have been exposed to. Regardless of how painful removing myself may be, I have to acknowledge situations & circumstances that require me to do so. “There are people who are not going to take responsibility for their energy, so I now, have to take responsibility for the energy that I allow to be brought into my space…

…You are not only responsible for the energy that you bring, you are also responsible for the energy that you surround yourself with.”- Oprah.  So, as you strive to live your best life, you must remain mindful of the people who are not contributing to the direction you are headed. You have to accept when it is time to stand firmly on self-love & eliminate yourself from the equation. People’s insecurities manifest in ways that can hinder you & your goals severely if you do not acknowledge & address it as what it is. Keeping this form of company will have you risking all that you have ever worked for because the only person that has anything to lose in this situation is you. So, please understand that protecting your energy sometimes entails removing yourself from situations &/or people that were once comfortable & familiar.

When it comes to making goals for yourself, it is extremely important that you do not let the negativity of others take you off track from obtaining them. Negative energy serves as a distraction to the things you can accomplish. So for your benefit, nip it in the bud. Bad energy is contagious. It is infectious. If you are not careful, it will begin to cloud all the dreams you have set forth to accomplish. So eliminate the individuals who contribute to it. Just as quick as these people fail to contribute to your positive surroundings, you better believe they are watching your every move. So listen & watch closely to the behaviors that people show you when you begin to reach new thresholds of success. Jealousy will always rear it’s ugly head; even if it is unintentional. Be mindful of the people who put a damper on all your aspirations & those who want to see you do well BUT not better than them. Those people will rather dull your shine & darken your dreams to keep you stagnant. Keep in mind that negative situations are a result of negative people who bring negative energy. When you begin to blossom, the behaviors people exhibit, whether good or bad, will show you more than they ever could tell you with their mouths. So, with that in mind, I urge you to be conscious & aware because someone’s actions will tell you more than a person’s mouth ever could. You are so much more than the hassle that negative energy brings & it is your right to remove yourself from it when it presents itself. After all, self-preservation is an essential key to loving yourself. Therefore, you must remove anything or anyone that puts that at risk. You dreams & goals require it.

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Leaving A Legacy

At some point of my life, up until recently, I always had, what I believed to be a clear understanding of what success is & what it looked like. Now that life has had it’s fun with me by showing me many times that life would never be what I expect it to be; I have a different understanding of what success is. Naively, I believed success equated to a career, the large house I would live in, the luxury car I would drive, the amount of money I would have in the bank & the picture perfect marriage with happy & healthy children. But I realize now, that success is so much more than what I once believed it to be. I am a firm believer that success has less to do with monetary values & more to do with the things that are free.

Success for me is the ability to live a spiritual & joyful life that makes me so high, I will always find the positive in whatever negative thing life may throw my way. Success is the positive & healthy relationships I build with my friends, family & loved ones that are full of support, understanding, knowledge & laughter. It includes accepting myself as I am, loving myself enough to know when I am being mistreated & being ok with removing myself from the equation because I have learned to put myself first. Although, acquiring material riches are not my motive, I understand that success includes leaving behind a legacy for my family to enjoy once I am no longer here to enjoy it with them.

Through this pursuit, I understand that I am not living this life for me alone. I understand that, god willing, there will be generations started from me that will live on this earth long after I am gone. Though I strive to reach my pennicle of success, I understand that my actions can surely effect my bloodline. Hence, why I strive to be my best self now, so that I could be my best self for them when it is time. I understand that being the best version of myself for them includes dealing with intergenerational shortcomings that may have been passed on from generations before me. My ultimate indicator of success is not to have a perfect family, but a family that is conscious & aware of their inconsistencies & are willing to deal with them. I want to contribute to experiences that do not haunt them & drag into their own interpersonal relationships. Because the truth is, the way they will love, will have everything to do with the way they are loved. I strive to not curse my family so that they have the best chance at their best life; in which ever way they choose to acquire that. I want to ensure that when they reflect on who I was & what I did for them they understand that, although I am not perfect I have done all things with them in mind. Who knows, maybe my great grand children will one day find this Nickkie&CO. platform & get the best understanding of who I am, who I strive to be & if I have done so successfully. I will never know, but I do know that what I leave behind for them is the best thing I can offer them.

We are getting older, people pass on & life continues whether we are her to enjoy it or not. So, it is important that we leave the generations after us something that will allow them to spread their fruit unto the earth by leaving something that can contribute to their quality of life. Life is so much more than what we can do for ourselves. Though we should strive to enjoy every aspect of our lives, it should consist of more than temporary financial riches & unpaid debt. Significant life lessons & true assets can do more for the livelihood of your family than the reflection of what once was or what could have been. Invest in them in ways you would have wished to be invested in & let the rest of your work & sacrifices manifest.

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Blooming Above Domestic Violence


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Welcome back Conglomerates! Today, we have another brave & courageous Guest Inspiration, Tejal, who opted to share her testimony with us as a domestic violence survivor. Despite what her story looks like she exudes self-love & loves the skin she is in. She is forthcoming with her story to remind others that they are not alone & survival can be accomplished. It is with much gratitude, appreciation & respect that I present to you today, Conglomerate Tejal…

Hello my name is Tejal also known as the makeup artist, lifestyle blogger, @brightdollface & writer of BloomingKiss Poetry, @bloomingkisspoetry. I recently ended my eleven year relationship with my ex-fiancé about two years ago. I was twenty-five years old at the time. I met him while I was dealing with my parent’s situation at home with domestic violence (D.V.).  I came from a household of alcohol not drugs. When I met him; he was seventeen years old & I started dating him at the age of fourteen. I decided to share my testimony as a domestic violence survivor because I know this will resonate with someone, somewhere.

When we began our relationship I recognized that he would smoke cigarettes but I did not know of his drinking nor of him smoking marijuana. I was never exposed to drugs so I was naive & was not able to comprehend the use of substances or the consequences other than alcohol. When I began to notice his heavy drinking and marijuana use, I became upset & told him he needed to stop using. I realized it was a coping mechanism for him to deal with his life issues — being an undocumented immigrant without hardly any family here & helping his family back in Honduras, Central America.

In the first couple years of our relationship, he was sweet & kind. But then he began to use cocaine, which I did not realize until later on when we moved from his father’s apartment to our own; in the next building over. I began to notice he became angrier & aggressive but I questioned why if I did nothing but help both of us out. I remember one night he became so angry, he must have been high; all I could recall was being on the floor in my kitchen crying with him on top of me. He hit me & the next day he apologized. I blacked out in that instant. I sustained an injury by him. My neighbors overheard & they wanted to call the police but I did not want to because he was undocumented & I did not want to see him deported. I forgave him because I loved him & I could not go back home to the situation with my parents.

As we moved back to his father’s, I could see that something had changed in him for the worse. This was when I was almost finished with my bachelor’s degree in 2013. I could tell he was using a stronger substance. Subsequently, I then noticed he would be out late for hours & I assumed he was cheating. He confessed one night & told me he was not cheating; he was addicted to Crack Cocaine. He then lost his job as a Baker & was out of work for two years. I graduated from College with my Bachelor’s Degree in Psychology & minor in Sociology in 2013, despite the struggles & issues I faced overall in life –at home & in our relationship, but most of all throughout all the abuse I succumbed. I obtained a fulltime job in social services as a Case Planner in New York City at a foster care agency. I was able to remain resilient despite being verbally, physically mentally & emotionally abused. It became harder & harder to leave him.

I maintained us both for those two years until I decided to leave one night. He had hit me so hard while I fought back because he tried to steal my cellphone, once again, to pawn it like he did my engagement ring, my jewelry my father gave me, tablets I had to purchase multiple times & my computer I needed while in Grad School, etc. I had family support & left to my other father’s home in Queens. I remained there until I obtained my own apartment in Jersey. Throughout his addiction in the last four to five years of our relationship, the first two years were the worst, it felt as if I was in hell, literally. He would take my cards, my money, steal my phone, tell me drug dealers were trying to kill him if he did not pay. I did not know how the streets functioned regarding drugs so, I believed him. I lost so much money but I lost him the day he began addicted to crack & I lost him even before as he transitioned from alcohol to marijuana to cocaine and to crack.

But my life was more important to me than losing him. I had lost myself so deep over the years. I hated who I had become. I was angry & I had hurt myself by overeating. I believed every word he would tell me. I was angry that I was abandoned by my parents & had to fend for myself. I entered such a toxic relationship after leaving a toxic home where I needed the love directly from my parents & no one else. I ended our relationship so many times. I moved away & he moved with me to the new apartment & so forth, but this time it was for good. I enabled him so much & I relied on his presence. I became so co-dependent on him which resulted by him always manipulating me, even when it came to my friends & family by making me think they did not care for me. It took time to heal. It took everything to fight to be here today, to love myself whole heartedly, to love who I am & not be ashamed (because boy, oh, boy, was I ashamed of myself for staying in this relationship). I was ashamed of being a domestic violence victim like my mother who stayed with my father until he passed away 7 years ago due to his alcoholism.

I broke the cycle & I say that with so much courage & bravery. It took me to unlearn everything I became & all the negative learned behaviors & thoughts to be here today. I was in therapy during & after leaving the eleven year relationship. My support system–  my previous supervisors, friends & family would tell me to leave. I tried but I thought he would change for us & for him but he could not. He had me believe he would but he never did. He tried, we went to Narcotics Anonymous groups but he stopped attending. He believed he could become sober on his own but he just could not. I had to become “sick & tired of being sick & tired” of hurting myself & staying in that relationship.

It took so much strength that I had to find within me & my faith in God. I prayed every night for strength to continue on. I felt so trapped. And here I am. Tejal, shining bright. Using her voice to tell her testimony to remind you all that YOU CAN OVERCOME. I believe in you! Understand that it will take time to heal. You must put the work in for YOU because at the end of the day, this is for YOU. Leaving a domestic violence situation is never easy but know you have support even if you feel alone. Trust, I felt so alone especially because I hardly have family that are not toxic.

So if you feel alone, please contact your local precinct or the National Domestic Violence Hotline 1−800−799−7233 or TTY 1−800−787−3224. Please know, you are important, loved & not alone. I use to think this only happened to me until I met a woman in Graduate school who also went through the same as I did, as a domestic violence survivor. My nurse at my clinic also disclosed that she too, was/is a domestic violence survivor. As I began to speak up & tell my story,  I no longer felt alone.

Today I stand before you as Tejal, a recent graduate with my Masters Degree in Social Work from Rutgers University, graduating class of 2018. Living & breathing in peace. and No longer living in chaos, as well as,  loving myself so much harder each every day than ever before.

Love & Light to you all, beautiful souls

XOXO.

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“Leaving a domestic violence relationship is never easy but know you have support, even if you feel alone… You are important & loved” – Tejal Parekh

Nickkie&CO. Soiree’ Recap

Nickkie one cupcakeGood morning Conglomerates!! This morning, this memoir is going to be slightly different from any other memoir I have written. Last Sunday, Nickkie&CO. had its first intimate Launch Soiree. I spent months planning this event & I cannot think of a better way it could have been executed. Many successful women came together to celebrate the current successes & the future vision I have for this brand. In that, I can not express to you how beautiful it turned out to be! Approximately, 40 different women from all walks of life with different backgrounds, were able to sit in one room, enjoy each other’s company, network & have a good time without any drama. It was amazing. People contributed in many ways to ensure that the event was a success just because they believed in me. Whether they provided advice, contributed by sharing their craft, donated to the cause or showed up as a guest; the love was surely felt & encouragement was at an all time high.

When conglomerates arrived, I asked them all to sign little wooden hearts painted red, pink & white. They were to place their signed heart in a glass frame so that I can commemorate the day. After approximately an hour of mingling & eating treats fit for royalty, Conglomerates played a few icebreaker games. One, Conglomerate Bingo, was a competitive game that required women to walk around & get to know each other. The bingo squares were listed with different quality traits that in one way or another described all the women in the room. When a woman in the room qualified for one of the squares in bingo, they would sign the square & the search continued. The first two women to shout BINGO won cosmetic jewelry sponsored by Urban Kleopatra. Afterwards, the women were asked to speak amongst themselves & present the name, occupation, unique fact & the passion of the woman to the left of them to the rest of the room. Women were open & willing to share intimately & it was breath-taking. It was evident that I was surrounded by a group of god-fearing women who came together & were not ashamed to express that.

The MC that hosted the event was much like the women that gathered in the room that day. She presented myself & the brand with so much passion that it was evident that she was supportive even before Nickkie&CO. was formulated on paper. She presented me as the young lady I once was who transformed to the woman who sat before them. A woman who thankfully has found her purpose. I formally thanked everyone for coming, taking a risk on me & for believing in my dreams. It was unscripted & raw. As I write this, I pray that the women could feel how moved I was by their presence & how determined I am to make them & other women around the world feel empowered & capable. It was an unspoken agreement amongst us all; we live our lives striving to win. I recognized Guest Inspirations for their courage in using the Nickkie&CO. platform to tell their story by giving them a special Nickkie&CO. mug with logo & catch phrase along with a copy of their written memoir. Shortly after a different type of excitement filled the room, as the women waited to see if they would win the prizes prepared for them.  A door prize of positivity pens was given, raffles were presented that consisted of more Urban Kleopatra jewelry & a prize of  (3) meal preps created by Healthy Bites by Julie found their way into the hands of conglomerates. Throughout the event, women filled out little gold envelopes & placed them in a decorative bird-cage to raise money for “Women’s Aware” Domestic Violence Shelter. Together, we raised $300 for the women & families in that shelter.

In the end, it all wrapped up beautifully– A toast for the milestones that have been accomplished & for the milestones to be surpassed. The brand logo was revealed & the grand finale; a butterfly release, that was symbolic of the evolution of the women in the room, as well as the brand. All Conglomerates went home with a sheer self-love parting bag that contained my business card, Nickkie&CO. self love affirmation card, Essential Oil, Essential Oil information sheet, Lipstick & Eyeliner sponsored by Jay Manual Cosmetics & a travel size hand sanitizer. It was really a beautiful event. The pictures & the description fail to give it justice. The amount of encouraging words I have received afterwards has been uplifting. Women left the event feeling empowered, renewed & ready for another one next year; which I will surely deliver.

But in all this, the most beautiful thing about the event has nothing to do with the decorations or the celebration of Nickkie&CO. What made the event so beautiful was that despite what people say about us, women can join together in a room, get along well enough to share our stories, network & encourage one another. I always say, especially under the right circumstances, women can do amazing things. Women do not always need to be in the limelight to celebrate another woman & most importantly women can sit at a leveled table knowing that they all can contribute something for the “win”. Women are not the mischievous back-stabbers reality tv makes us out to be or the hormonal psychopaths that often comes up in jokes. Women are sensible & striving to better themselves every day. That was evident on Sunday. If there was a takeaway from this event, I want women to feel comfortable stepping out of the box. I want them to understand that everyone may not always see their dreams, but people who believe in them will surely support. Passion is the determinant to how people feel about them & what they represent. I can almost guarantee that, if someone did not see the vision, they surely saw it Sunday. It is evident in the way people have reached out to contribute to other Nickkie&CO. missions. It only takes a little effort to empower someone & it goes a long way. I truly believe god was in that room that day & I saw him in all the faces of the women who sat down before me. So, thank you to everyone that took the time out of their busy schedules to spend with me. I appreciate it. Even if you could not make it, I still appreciate any effort you made in the background. There will always be next year.

Until next time Conglomerates.

Nickkie Endo warrior

Finale: Butterfly Release

Thank you all again for a wonderful time!

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Ephesians 4:29

No EvilWelcome to another self-love Sunday, Conglomerate. I appreciate you joining me another week to kick off your week on a positive note. This week I want to address a topic I am certain has effected more than a handful of us. Most of my life, specifically during my adolescence, I had to deal with people dictating the outcome of what my life was going to be. Whether I disagreed with a directive or expressed myself in a way they did not agree with; they would often tell me I would not amount to anything. I was often reminded that instead of making a difference in the world I would be a pregnant teenager (as if that is a death sentence) or end up in jail. Granted, I was not always the most friendly but I was far from malicious. I would be the first to admit that I was DEFIANT & I gave the same respect that I felt was given to me. If I felt disrespected or threatened, I would talk back, defend myself, & seek to humiliate who I believed to be my aggressor. As adolescent teenagers, for some of us, behavior like I had is all apart of the process of growing up & falling into your role in life. The growth process takes on many facets even if it is not the most glamorous. So for the life of me, I can not figure out how my adolescent behavior warranted such definite assumptions of who I was destined to be; a girl whose life will be short-lived because she would “shamefully” end up pregnant or in jail.

Now that I am an adult who has turned out to be everything they never believed I would be; I recognize that people tag negative expectations on the lives of others based on their own standards of living. In my evolution, I have learned that people prefer to influence through negative affirmations instead of the opposite. They would rather remind you of all the things you have done wrong instead of pointing out the things you have done right. They rather point out characteristics they find less appealing instead of pointing out the beauty in them & they prefer to attack your self-esteem by pointing out your flaws instead of teaching you how to use them in your favor. So today, I want to express the importance of speaking power into people, especially our young people. Collectively, we need to help others realize their worth by speaking positive affirmations over their lives; despite what physical & mental state they are in. People are not always resilient to negativity & if exposed to it enough, they can easily believe it. I reflect often on the things that were said to me & I cringe at the possible effects people’s negative statements could have had on me. I am grateful today that I did not believe what they believed I would be.

Let us not be like those people; the same people who hate something so much in themselves that they would rather impose it on someone else instead of uplift them. As we get older, time changes & our roles in life shift, let us not forget that life is a process of growth. Though we should encourage maximizing one’s potential, we should never encourage someone to reach & settle at their highest potential as it enforces limitations on them that require them to stop evolving, learning & being. That being said, let us not dictate someone’s potential because that gives the message that someone can never be more than what we said they can be. Let us speak light where there is darkness & life where there is none. Let us not contribute to breaking down someone else’s character & forgetting to look at our own flaws. In the same way we look in the mirror & speak life changing affirmations on our lives, we must do the same for others. Never be a part of the reason that someone believed they were not good enough. Someone will always remember you for being the one person who believed in them in contrast to the many that did not. Kind gestures & words reap so many more benefits to the world than those that hurt. Make the difference. Be kind.

Kindness is free, sprinkle that sh*t everywhere.  

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Ephesians 4:29- Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen (NIV).

Live for Your Dreams

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For years many of us have gotten it mixed up. We have spent our whole lives going to school to pursue careers we were told would provide us happiness & financial comfort. We have been taught that financial comfort opens the door to happiness on our lives. We have been brainwashed to believe that our passion & purpose are correlated with the 9-5 we aquire after we go to college. Though I am well-educated & am a fan of education, some educational structures have placed limitations on our minds & what we are capable of. In many educational settings, we are taught to believe in the dreams of someone else so that we acquire jobs that entail contributing to those dreams; dreams that are not our own. I am not opposed to contributing to the dreams of someone else, but I am opposed to not pursuing our own dreams & our own purpose out of fear, discomfort or indolence. However one chooses to live their life is completely their prerogative but life is too short. Life is so much more than waking up, working, sleeping & dying. Life is a realm full of experiences that contribute to who we are, how we live & what we feel (passion). It is our passions that will propel us directly into our purpose; whatever that may be. Just know that we were not placed on this earth to live a mediocre life that warrants us the same boring routine with limitations on our full potential.

It is important that in life’s journey we find the fuel that pushes us to reach our highest potential. It is easy to sit back & take the easy route but it will not be gratifying. There is a difference between doing what we have to do & doing what we are called to do. We need to pay attention to the “nudge” that keeps telling us we are not doing enough; we have to do more. Finding out what in this life speaks to us will have us reaching the peaks of mountain tops we never imagined we would see. We do not have to be famous or rich to be fulfilled, we just have to believe in ourselves, take risks on ourselves & take action. It has been said, that those who find their passion & actively engage in them are happier than those who do not. We deserve this happiness & we have to actively pursue it. Today we have to vow to invest in our own dreams so that we never have to wonder “what if”. Dreams are real but they only stop being dreams when we make them a reality. It is about that time. The risks can be made in baby steps but they need to be made. The way technology has evolved, foundations have been planted that allow us to take small steps toward our dreams while we tend to what we need to do. At this point, social media & word of mouth can open a realm of opportunities. Whether it is opening our own businesses or providing us the resources to pursue new endeavors; it is all obtainable. Things that were once out of reach have now been placed right in front of us so there is no reason to remain stagnant.

Whatever your dreams are invest in them. Despite how small it is or unsure you are, take a risk & try it. Had I allowed my own self-doubt to get in the way of pursuing my desire to empower, Nickkie&CO. would be nonexistent today. Though I have a long way to go, all it took was a little faith & one step in the direction of my dreams. Slowly it is all coming together. I want the same for you. I am slowly pursuing my dream while dealing with what I need to do. So it is possible. Regardless of what awaits you remember,  the rollercoaster is worth it & when it is your time to go (a long time from now) you will be able to leave the imprint for future generations after you– that despite what anyone conditioned you to believe, you chose to believe in yourself; first.

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